Hi, I’m John Polo.
I am a widower, step dad, author, blogger and speaker.
I met the love of my life, Michelle, at a young age, and we dated in High School for one year. I fell madly in love with her.
After eight years apart we reunited and planned to spend the rest of our lives together, alongside Michelle’s amazing daughter.
Two years after our reunion Michelle was diagnosed with an extremely rare and aggressive cancer. So rare in fact, that we were told when you consider what type of cancer it was, and where it developed, there is only one case a year in the world of what Michelle had.
Michelle fought valiantly for two and a half years before taking her last breath with us on January 22, 2016.
Through the pain, and the loss, I have become a better man.
I was bitter.
I was really bitter.
Why did this happen to us?
Why did this happen to us right after we found our way back to each other?
Why was our future stolen away from us in the most callous of ways?
While in hospice I was venting to my sister about this, and she asked me a question that would forever change me.
‘Would you rather have not gotten back together and found out years later that she died of this terrible disease?’
That question profoundly changed me.
It shook me to my core.
It changed my heart. It changed my soul.
In an instance, I was no longer bitter.
I was better.
I am so deeply thankful that we were brought back together.
I got to care for Michelle during her cancer battle. I got to show her that she was loved. Truly and unconditionally. I never left her side and I stayed until death did us part.
She showed me so much too. She showed me that I was worthy of that same love. She showed me what it meant to have true character and class, and to not let your sorrows get the best of you. She also showed me what it meant to truly be a great, unselfish parent.
Through it all, she smiled.
This blog and the Facebook page will talk about Michelle, about the cancer battle, about our family before it, through it and after it. It will talk about grief, love and hope. Some of my posts will be happy and some will be sad. Some will inspire you, some will make you laugh and some will make you cry.
Michelle was my best friend and soul mate. She was a beautiful person. Inside and out. And we miss her every day.